A Note to My Daughter

To my Daughter:

Let me start by saying that you are the most wonderful baby girl is this entire world, I’m sure of that. You scare me so much my sweet lady. I want you to keep your little fingers wrapped around mine forever, but I also want you to live a full, beautiful life. I wish the biggest problem in your world would always be your brother not sharing with you. I would give everything for you never to have your feelings hurt. I never, ever want anyone to be mean to you, and I always want you to treat others how you would like to be treated. Kindness goes so far my darling so demonstrate it whenever you can. I can’t think about you having your heartbroken but I know it’s going to happen….probably more than once. I hope I prepare you for the obstacles you’re going to face; I promise I’ll do my best for you.

Please know that everything I tell you not to do is for good reason and not to be mean. No matter how mad you get at me please don’t say you hate me. I know someday you may feel that way, but I love you so much and whatever it is that I’m not letting you do is because I’m trying to protect you. I know you’ll hate that too.

Please don’t be in too much of a rush…for anything. You’ll be old enough to ride without training wheels for a lot longer than you ever have them so take comfort in their protection. Point shoes really hurt your toes so enjoy ballet slippers as long as you can. Locker’s get crowded, combinations are hard to remember and High School is over rated; they certainly won’t be the best days of your life (It get’s way, way better). When you meet a boy who tells you he loves you and you love him back, just wait to take big steps…you have plenty of time.

I hope you want to snuggle with me a year from now in your toddler bed, two years from now in your “big girl” bed, five years from now when you’ve had a bad dream, and fifteen years from now when you need a shoulder to lean on. I hope you always know you can talk to me about anything. If you strike out in your softball game, flunk a math test, or make a big mistake know that I’ll always love you unconditionally, and all I want from you is for you to try your best. There isn’t anything you could do to change the way I feel about you, and I will help you through anything. (Two heads working together on a problem is always better than one.)

Please hold doors, use the best manners, and be the type of friend that you would like to have. When things get rough, and they will, know that it is temporary. Please, please don’t sweat the small stuff. Laugh as often as you can…laugh until you cry. Remember that sticks and stones may break bones but words hurt much more, so use them thoughtfully and carefully. Try to think of the glass half full. Give others the benefit of the doubt. When a person ringing up your groceries is rude to you, remember that they may have something going on in their world causing them to act that way…be kind to them…they could probably use a dose of kindness. Always use your turn signals, it’s just polite. Be yourself and stand up for what you believe in. Tip high. Don’t be afraid to cry. Know your worth. Don’t ever, ever settle. Know that you are capable of absolutely anything you set your mind to, and I’ll always be here to help you achieve your dreams.

You won’t understand how much I love you until you have children of your own, if you choose to do so. If you are a mother one day, I’ll be your babysitter, and I’ll love them like crazy too.  In the meantime, I’m going to soak up every second I can with you my sweet girl.

note to daughter